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Posted: Apr 10, 2014 23:00

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Bonners Ferry, ID


How to Welcome Your Child Back
The Hero's Return



Contact:
Lon Woodbury, MA, CEP, IECA
208-267-5550
lonwoodbury@gmail.com
www.strugglingteens.com

Featuring:
Ruben Jimenez
Author, Family Coach, Licensed Therapist
805-640-7671
ruben@rubenjimenez.com
www.rubenjimenez.com

April 7, 2014

For a son or daughter returning home from treatment, it can often be compared to as a "hero's return or a hero's journey". They have faced their demons and dragons and have come back with wisdom. And when that "prodigal son or daughter" returns home- they need to come home and celebrate the new person that has emerged. And so the conversation began as Ruben Jimenez, licensed therapist, family coach and author joined Lon Woodbury today on LATALKRadio.com to talk about his book- "The Road Home: A Guide for Parents with Teens or Young Adults Returning from Treatment."

"Treatment Works!" Ruben emphatically exclaimed. "But, it is important for the kids to hold onto the gains they made while in treatment and it is important for parents to know what those experiences and gains were and to respect the gains made." Home contracts are really imperative to have in place before your child returns home and that your (the parents) values are focused on and the contract is agreed upon by all. The first two months are the "sweet times"- the honeymoon period…it is within the middle of the second to third month, in which boundaries may be pushed by the returning child. That is when it is crucial for parents to be willing to listen to their child and have those home contracts ready. (These contracts often set basic rules for living at home and can cover areas such as: curfews, technology use, drugs and alcohol use, driving and/or academics.) "This makes for a nice clean baton pass- they learned a lot in treatment and now take that same treatment and pass it on to the parents and home life."

"I built a model to help parents plug into and succeed, to process and sort out values and visions of their family life with the return of their child and stress to them the importance of communication: TLC = transparent, loving communication. It is like loving 101!

"The parent needs to be in charge, there has to be a hierarchy of power- to be in control of their home and not question their authority. I often see kids that are entitled and spoiled because a parent(s) does not want to be authoritarian and will go in the opposite direction and be too lenient, and then the child controls the family. I think 'middle of the road' parents are on the right track- using the best of the 1950's parenting style and combining the style of today's parents…an equal balance of firm and loving."

To listen to the full interview, go to How To Welcome Your Child Back: The Hero's Return on LATalkRadio.
Also available in Podcast

Lon Woodbury is the owner/founder of Woodbury Reports, Inc. and www.strugglingteens.com, and is a father and grandfather. He has worked with families and struggling teens since 1984 and is the host of Parent Choices for Struggling Teens.

Ruben Jimenez is an author, speaker, licensed therapist and family coach. He helps families to navigate transitions from treatment to home and also leads retreats for young adults with failure to launch issues.

If you know somebody (including yourself) who would make a good guest on our show and might be interested,

Contact Lon at lonwoodbury@gmail.com or 208-267-5550



Upcoming shows:



April 21:
Janet Allison- Boys Alive!


Attention:

The following books are available on Amazon.com:

Part 1 - The Introduction to the Parent Empowerment Handbook

Part 2 - Single Sex Schools

Part 3 - Wilderness Therapy and Outdoor Education

Part 4 - Pre-Teens & Young Adults





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