Quotes - June, 2001 Issue
|Family is a collection of people who pool resources and help each
other over the long haul. Families love one another even when that requires sacrifice. Family means that if you disagree you still
~ Mary Piper
The Shelter of Each Other
| Morality is not truly learned by children unless it is taught in
their homes, by the examples and by the conscious effort of their parents.
~ Richard Eyre, TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN VALUES
| One-word answers, short fragments, and quick responses work well
in cyberspace but don't build muscles in the brain or in the soul.
~ Jean K. Norris, Head of Miss Hall's School
Jan 2000 Newsletter "Making Haste Slowly"
| Most studies show that children in stepfamilies do not do better
than children in single-parent families; indeed, many indicate that on average children in remarriages do worse.
~Frank F. Furstenerg Jr. "History and Current Status of Divorce in the United States,"
THE FUTURE OF CHILDREN 4 no. 1
| Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what
happens to you.
~ Aldous Huxley
| Why is it that we provide ourselves with many choices for worship,
entertainment and shopping, but only one choice for the public education of adolescent?
~ Robert DeBoise, Director
Urban Collaborative Accelerated Program
| "Good Job!" is a remnant of an approach to psychology
that reduces all of human life to behaviors that can be seen and measured. Unfortunately, this ignores the thoughts, feelings
and values that lie behind behaviors.
~ Alfie Kohn, 2000
| Since the end of World War II, adults in Western societies
have, in effect, declined the educational role, with the exception of intellectual training and instruction. A widespread sense
of impotence and guilt has led to the belief that children might in fact know better than their elders what values are important
and how they should live. Many parents, teachers, clergymen, and politicians have concluded that they have nothing to teach young
people in terms of beliefs and values.
~ Mihaly Csikszentmihali
Professor emeritus, U. of Chicago
EDUCATION WEEK, Apr. 19, 2000
| Goals of Family Therapy
1.) We need to protect.
2.) We need to connect families to others.
3.) Be purveyors of hope.
4.) Be purveyors of respect.
5.) We can clarify thinking.
6.) We can help families develop a strategy to make good decisions.
7.) We can teach empathy.
8.) We can promote authenticity and creativity.
9.) We can fight secrets, promote openness and encourage facing pain directly.
10.) We can help families diffuse anxiety and cope with stress.
~ Mary Pipher, THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER
| I'm going to tell you something that I didn't learn until I became
a parent. You don't just love your children. You fall in love with them.
~Actor Kelsey Grammer
as Dr. Frasier Crane, on Faiser