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Opinion & Essays - Jul, 1999 Issue #59

A PARENTAL REMINDER
By Jim Jones, PhD. 

We unknowingly reward our children time after time for doing what we have told them not to do. Listed below are some basic misunderstandings that we as parents sometimes experience.

1) We unintentionally train our children not to believe us; when we fail to follow through every time.

2) We unintentionally train our children to be sloppy and disorderly; when we allow them to keep their rooms messy.

3) We unintentionally train our children to beg; when we reward their begging.

4) We unintentionally train our children to bicker, whine and fight; when it brings them the attention they want.

5) We unintentionally train our children to spend foolishly and to not save their money; when we give them money rather than require that they earn in it.

6) We unintentionally train our children to argue; when we argue with them or allow them to argue with each other.

7) We unintentionally train our children to criticize; when we criticize them or others.

8) We unintentionally train our children to punish us with nagging and pouting; when we give in to their demands.

9) We unintentionally train our children to ditch their chores and responsibilities; when we allow them to escape their chores and responsibilities.

10) We unintentionally train our children to be irresponsible; when we rescue them from the consequences of their irresponsible decisions.

11) We unintentionally train our children to be lazy; when we provide everything for them without requiring them to work and earn.

12) We unintentionally train out children to be selfish; when they are not required to share and sacrifice for others.

13) We unintentionally train our children to become procrastinators; when we rescue them at the last minute from the consequences of poor time management.

14) We unintentionally train our children to not budget and save their money; when we lend or give them money when they have not worked or saved.

15) We unintentionally train our children to be wasteful; when we provide abundance when they are careless with their time and resources.

16) We unintentionally train our children in thousand ways not to do as they should; when we fail to administer proper consequences!

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